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RE: Tunisian Wedding traditions
Hi there,

As you mentioned there's a lot of differents tranditions with weddings ... but most of them there are the same ... but what really i like in the weddings is the few days before the big party... when the groom has to walk with his familly members in the front ( only men) and with his friends and relatives and they have to walk all of them to the house of the Bride to ask for her hand ... and then you see a crowd of people walking together talking having nice chats and when they come to the door of the Brid's house ... one man ( mostly the father of the groom of his brother ... ) knock the door of the house 3 times ... and then you hear a man voice asking : Who's knocking .. and then he answers : We are .... caming to ask the hand of your Daughter .... for our son ..... and then the guy from the Bride's house ( mostly her father or big brother if the father dead ) he open the door and he says : Please be welcome in our home ...

In fact it's a role-playing because the bride's family there know that in that date at that time all this will happen ... but what really matter is the social / human aspect of this role-playing ...
First of all when you see the crowd of people that shows a social solidarity which i believe every society needs it ... Second the idea of all this is the "publicity" because when man sees a crowd of people walking together .. he would ask , what's going on ... and then the answer is that .. the daguthter of .... is getting married to the son of .... so people are going to know it so the bride will be treated in the future as a "token" woman ... so no man in the future will try a chance with her ... which is good i think ...
Third : the fact that the groom comes walking from a certain place to another place (Bride's house) with the most closed people to him ( family, relatives, friends ) show's how much the bride means for him .. i believe that something like in Europe the act when the man goes on his knee for the Bride ... or when the father of the bride gives away his daughter in the church to her groom ...

I do believe that in spite of everything the goals of every culture are the same ..

of course i can tell you more about he weddings in Tunisia .. but trust me that will take me a year